Livid Mom

This is how my holiday season is turning out so far… my grandmother passed away a week ago. She was 93 and had a great healthy life until these last few weeks. My daughters were supposed to fly out to see me, but the ex didn’t like the tickets, wouldn’t take them to the airport, and wouldn’t allow anyone in my family to come pick them up and take them… so I had to get a refund on the tickets.  I’m heartbroken. Because of the price of tickets, and availability, I wasn’t able to fly to them, and I can’t take that many days off work. So I don’t get to see them. To top it off, I went and picked up my PO box mail on Christmas, and I got a wage garnishment for child support, effective today. $313 gone every two weeks… leaving me $1400 a month to live on. Awesome.

So that’s my cheer and joy so far. How are you other ladies doing this season?

LM

December 27th, 2008 | Tags: custodial, custody, holiday, lonely, mom, mother, non, sad | Category: blog, custodial, mom, mother, non, support | Comments (2)

And it has also been brought to my attention (thank you!) that I’m a giant dork.  I’m going to figure out the comment issue I’m having… 

So many blogs so little time!  :)

LM

December 4th, 2008 | Tags: blog, custodial, mom, mother, non | Category: blog, custodial, help, mom, mother, non, resource, support | Comments (1)

Just a reminder to cast your vote tomorrow, whom ever you chose.

Remember, there are more than two people running for president. Vote your conscience.

LM

November 4th, 2008 | Tags: 2008, election, vote | Category: blog, support | Leave a comment

Yesterday marked the 13 year anniversary of my attack. Some years I don’t even realize it’s THE day, until I have to write it down for some reason.  I’ve even had years where I just didn’t feel right, and realize later in the day why.  It’s really weird how the brain remembers traumatic events.

I can understand repressed memories.  I can also imagine how someone could carry events throughout different lifetimes, if one believes in reincarnation.  

When I reflect on that day, a lot of the anger has passed.  It’s usually sadness I feel.  But it passes pretty quickly. I’m lucky to be alive, and that’s what I try to remember.

Happy October 15th.

October 16th, 2008 | Tags: 13, anniversary, attack, ex, husband, rape | Category: blog, custodial, help, mom, mother, non, resource, support | Leave a comment

Also lost custody of her children. Another story of the man getting custody, and then moving away.

I was hassled by my ex over the weekend regarding child support. After being out of work for a couple of months, due to no fault of my own… I’m just now getting caught up. Pretty soon, they will take 1/2 my pay, and I’ll be back to struggling, and trying to find another job.  Not only so I can pay “THE MAN”, but I can pay him too. My girls are coming to the end of their living at home journey, and at that point, I will go back to court to have the child support amended, so it is paid directly to them, instead of my ex.

They are counting down the days until they can move out, and he has done a splendid job of alienating them from HIMSELF, with his overbearing and psychotic behavior. It could have gone either way for me. He could have successfully alienated them from ME, or, alienated HIMSELF from them, but doing exactly what he did, and continues to do.

I don’t feel sorry for him. He will eventually reap what he’s sewn, and it will take my oldest daughter years in therapy to undo the psychological harm he’s caused her.

October 14th, 2008 | Tags: angry, custodial, mom, mother, non | Category: blog, custodial, help, mom, mother, non, resource, support | Leave a comment

So right before every visitation, my ex becomes extremely difficult, and basically has to try to peacock and act like a complete dickhead. This Christmas is no exception. I’m flying my kids to see me this year, which will be the first year in 10 years they have been with me at MY HOME during Christmas break. They both want to come, and my oldest will be 18, youngest 16 when they come up. I think they’re old enough to decide. 

Just a last ditch effort to retain control, and all he’s doing is driving them away.

Come on ladies, vent away.

September 15th, 2008 | Tags: controlling, custodial, ex, husband, issues, mom, non, visitation | Category: blog, custodial, help, mom, mother, non, resource, support | Leave a comment

I want to hear from other Non custodial Mom’s.  What’s going on in your world?

September 5th, 2008 | Tags: custodial, mom, mother, non, without | Category: blog, custodial, help, mom, mother, non, resource, support | Leave a comment

And i’m sorry for neglecting you! I’m overwhelmed with a new job, and i’m trying to figure out how to allow Authors to post on this site. I have a couple of non custodial mom’s with heartbreaking stories to share. Time we help each other ladies. Please visit http://www.angelfury.org and throughly look through that site. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!!

Michelle

PS (If you would like to be a guest poster/author, and have your story posted. Let me know. lividmom@lividmom.com)

September 3rd, 2008 | Tags: alone, blog, custodial, help, livid, mom, mother, non, sad | Category: blog, custodial, help, mom, mother, non, resource, support | Leave a comment

This is another important video from blip.tv, as seen through http://www.angelfury.org.

August 28th, 2008 | Tags: custodial, help, mom, mother, non, resource, video | Category: blog, custodial, help, mom, mother, non, resource, support | Leave a comment